It’s likely that in the recent past that you’ve encountered one of those list of the signs that your spouse is cheating. I’ve seen many of those lists, including the specialized ones of what to look for in the car or on their cell phone.
Those lists are helpful at times. From time to time I’m made aware of new signs of cheating I hadn’t considered.
Although most share many common items, there are times when a few signs stand out. Relationships are always changing as are the signs of cheating.
Consider that twenty years ago, much of the technology cheaters use today didn’t even exist. In the past it was about lip stick, perfume, stains on their clothing and anonymous hang up phone calls.
One thing those lists have in common is their focus on external signs of the affair. They point out things outside of yourself that are signs to look for.
It’s unfortunate that the lists leave off the ‘internal signs’ inside of you that an affair is still active. The cheater can always learn better ways of cleaning up after themselves.
When crime scenes can be cleaned up, so can signs of an affair.
It’s also amazing how some people who never clean up after themselves manage hiding the signs of an affair. In some cases, they are too clean when it comes to the affair.
What if, there are signs of an affair inside of you that can’t be cleaned up?
Your own emotions and body senses things that you may not be consciously aware of or thought to consider.
Two of those internal signs are when you second guess yourself and when you quit trusting your gut. When both of those happen consistently, it’s something you want to pay attention to.
Ignoring those internal signs makes you increasingly vulnerable to deception. Getting you to deceive yourself by not trusting your internal sensations is where that begins.
The best time to do something about the affair is when you notice the signs. One thing worth considering is the “Affair Recovery Workshop” for you and your marriage.
You can use it with or without an accompanying therapist. You can start working on your marriage with download. No waiting for an appointment or any approvals.
Best Regards,
Jeff
