In a recent breakfast conversation, while on a business trip, the subject of swingers came up. This isn’t surprising since people ask what I do and on telling them, the conversation changes.
What made this conversation different was that the subject of the “High Tech” swingers in California came up. The conversation included Andrew, who attended some of the “High Tech” swinger events.
He viewed the ‘High Tech swingers’ as an event overflowing with ‘positive’ vibes and energy. The event included pre-measured doses of MDMA (ecstasy) and mind-altering drugs as part of the events leading up to the swinging.
In the name of fostering creativity, the drugs enhanced the ‘positive vibes’ and sexual performance of the participants.
Although my initial reaction was surprise. After some thinking about it, many affairs begin under the guise of being a ‘positive experience’.
The high-tech swingers viewed themselves as smart enough to bypass the consequences of affairs. They view themselves as more clever about consequences than ‘weaker’ people have when sleeping around. By tinkering with their brain and chemical make-up, they short-circuit the natural systems inside you.
In an effort to keep the participants from natural consequences, drinks containing other chemicals balancing out the side effects from the mind-altering drugs were made available. This way they have ‘sex without consequences’, or so they think.
I wonder if those taking the drugs consider the potential long term effects of such drugs with the brain swelling and kidney malfunction that comes with them? It’s likely that they think they’re smart enough to bypass those effects as well.
I doubt that when in the midst of a drug induced altered state that they consider that long-term use produces concentration difficulties and heart disease. In other words, the long-term use impairs their ability to think and problem solve which they pride themselves on.
I also wondered about the long-term impact of such mind-altering chemical use. These are people, not some kind of machine whose performance can be tweaked with chemical additives. The longer and more routine the use, the greater the danger.
It also concerned me that if the wife swapping was so ‘natural’ and freeing, why were so many mind-altering chemicals used in such controlled dosages?
I always thought that when something was ‘natural’, that it didn’t need artificial additives or stimulants.
When what you do needs so many additives, it’s not good for you, no matter how noble the cause. Going outside of the boundaries of your marriage has consequences.
No amount of alcohol or drug takes away the consequences of crossing those boundaries. Your body still knows when things aren’t right.
If you struggle with the consequences of affair trauma, the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma” will help you get back to who you were before.
Best Regards,
Jeff
