Is there are cure for a broken heart?

On one of the blog posts, a reader left the question “You say there is a cure for this but is there a cure for a broken heart?” This is a very profound and timely question.

In terms of curing a broken heart, there are several things for you to consider. If your idea of heart’ consists of the center of your feelings and a broken heart consists of hurt feelings, then over time, the feelings will change.

There were feelings. Those feelings were real.

Although they were real, when you stop nurturing them, they begin fading.

When you view a broken heart’ as an expression for broken relationship bonds and soul fragments, it’s a while different matter. With the many bonds formed in swinging, the risk for the pain of broken bonds and soul fragments is HIGH.

I like the term soul fragment since it captures the idea of how part of you is lost and you have parts of other people within you. It’s as if you lost a little more of you with each swap’ or ‘affair’, until there’s not much of you left.

No matter what you call sleeping around, you left part of yourself behind and you have part of your lover with you from now on. The soul fragments are the intangible parts left behind.

The pain of soul fragments is an existential and emotional pain. These are not pains that just go away or change over time. They bring a sense of emptiness (as in a hollow sensation). At times, you may also feel torn in many different directions and have trouble focusing.

Healing the soul fragments requires some intensive work. Most don’t heal completely in this area, although it is possible. The reason many don’t heal is that they don’t understand what they are dealing with and what’s required for this type of restorative work.

This is one of the reasons why doing trauma work is important after an affair even when you don’t feel traumatized by it. Just because the sensations are not intense doesn’t mean that they are not present.

In the video “Forgiveness: Overcome the pain, Tear down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks” you can learn some ways of bringing closure to those open wounds and start getting yourself back together.

Best Regards,

Jeff

 

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