Are you falling for the ‘easy marriage’ lies?

Have you ever noticed the plethora of ads promoting ‘easy marriage?‘ When I come across them, I wonder “What planet are they from?’

On seeing ads proclaiming “Love demands nothing: No sacrifice needed“, I cringe. Making soft, easy choices like that is what led to an affair in the first place.

Perhaps there are marriages where no sacrifice is needed. I haven’t found any yet that are healthy. You can tell the difference between couples who make sacrificial giving and those who give the bare minimum to their marriage.

The difference is astounding.

I make sacrifices in my marriage on a regular basis. The thing is, I don’t mind making them.  In most cases, I consider them investments in my relationships.

Over time you can reach the point where you enjoy making sacrifices in your marriage. You put aside selfish and insensitive behaviors, along with selfish expectations in the name of love.

Saying “Love demands nothing” is a half-truth. Love has manners and doesn’t demand much, yet it requires a great deal. The use of the word ‘demand nothing’ makes it sound like ‘easy  marriage’.

Immature love is demands things in a selfish way. It wants attention, it wants gratification and it doesn’t want to share.

The focus of selfish love is all on “I, me, mine”. Mature love is less demanding, yet it still requires a great deal.

It is that love that restrains you from cheating. You choose putting your spouse ahead of your own self-gratification. You decline offers from those outside of your marriage because you love your spouse.

Your marriage can change.  Making those change requires effort and sacrifices.

If your marriage needs some course correction in getting back on the right path, the “30 Days to a Better Marriage” Program is something you want to consider.

You can start the needed transformation.

Best Regards,

Jeff

 

 

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