Although I’ve heard people talk about having a ‘perfect’ marriage, I’ve never seen one. They’re as elusive as some of the cryptozoological creatures you read rumors about on the internet. You hear about them, but don’t see any definite proof of their existence.
Like Bigfoot or the Yeti, you hear of their existence, yet evidence is limited. The truth is, each marriage has imperfections, blind spots and faults.
I’ve seen that with my parents, friends and in my own marriage. Since they are made up of humans, there are things that go wrong. Even though there are imperfections, there is love, forgiveness and patience that help smooth those areas over.
On coming across a blog post where readers talked about a marriage ending after three days, it concerned me. What would cause a marriage to fall apart after three days?
I don’t know why they decided splitting. It could have been many things. The writer talking about it thinks that couples these days are very intolerant and enter marriage with the attitude that “if it doesn’t work out, we’ll just call it quits.”
That kind of thinking and talk is what I hear from divorce oriented couples. Instead of entering with an attitude of covenant oriented thinking, they enter marriage with an exit strategy. It makes me wonder if this was a second marriage for each of them.
They may also not have known each other as well as they thought. Lust has ways of distorting your thinking. They may have entered marriage with fantasies about what they were getting into, only discovering it wasn’t what they thought.
I lean in the direction that they didn’t know each other as well as they thought. Even experienced couples still learn things about each other after years of marriage.
Getting to know each other requires that each of you move outside of your comfort zone. It also requires clear, honest communication. Leaving out one or the other attribute leads to communication problems.
I find that most couples want to know each other, yet stop short of reaching the kind of closeness they crave. They want to know each other, but don’t know how.
This is where the video, “Let’s Talk: Hurting People and Healing Questions” comes in. It guides you through proven ways of improving the connection between the two of you.
Many times, it’s during those times of crisis and hurt that the two of you start getting honest and connecting in a meaningful way. The affair is a clear signal that things aren’t what they should be.
You face the choice of calling it quits or working it out. That’s not an easy decision to consider.
If you’re facing that choice, you can at least know what’s needed in connecting with each other. Instead of yelling at each other, the two of you can instead work through your concerns.
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Keeping It Real,
Jeff
