When your spouse is filling out dating profiles

It’s exasperating when your spouse continues testing relationship limits. When they start filling out dating profiles and talking to girls online, there is trouble ahead. Dating profiles amount to actively seeking out a relationship. It means they are looking for someone else, not you. Why would your spouse do this? If you’re seeing dating profiles, it’s time to have a talk with your spouse about where things are

These kinds of behavior tests limits. In their mind, they aren’t cheating. Just a bit of harmless flirting. It’s technically not cheating although the attitude behind it is one that you find with cheating. But that’s the thing, you don’t know until you dig deeper and discover the truth; unless they confess what they are doing.

The problem is it doesn’t just come out when you ask. You have to monitor them in secret. This brings up trust issues.

They may not be sleeping with someone else, but their heart is not 100% with you at those times.

These kinds of behaviors are way beyond just looking at other women. They are taking active steps of initiating relationships with them. Which could lead to sex. That is why it’s so important to nip this in the bud as soon as possible.

If you find your spouse is engaging in these activities, talk to them about it. If they are unwilling to change or make things right, then you may need to consider making changes in the relationship.

In terms of the effects of what they’re doing, it may as well be an affair. It creates distance between the two of you, puts others ahead of you and promotes selfishness. They’re advertising for an affair.

It reminds me of a fisherman who has his baited line in the water but tells the game warden he isn’t fishing since he hasn’t caught anything yet. Game wardens don’t buy those kinds of excuses and neither should you.

These kinds of situations require more than harsh confrontations. If anything such a confrontation drives them deeper into their limit testing.

If a fishing game warden saw that someone was “testing limits” he’d probably confiscate the hook, line and fish; then make them throw back what they’ve caught.

Instead of attacking them, consider focusing on how what they are doing leaves you feeling and the distance it creates between the two of you. This avoids the debates over whether or not it’s an affair.

It also puts you in a place where they can’t disprove what you’re claiming. What they’re doing is damaging the closeness between the two of you.

It also helps when you focus on what to do about it rather than why they’re doing it. Looking at the why turns into a blame game. By focusing on what to do, you avoid that trap.

These kinds of behaviors indicate that the two of you aren’t connecting with each other as well as you could be. This is where the video “Let’s Talk: Hurting People and Healing Questions” guides you in opening up new channels of connection between the two of you.

There are ways of turning your situation around without high-drama blowouts. Knowing ways of dealing with them can make all the difference in what the outcome is.

Click and download your copy today. Within minutes you can be finding solutions rather than continuing wondering what to do in your exasperation.

 

Keeping It Real,

 

Jeff

 

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