Archive for the Affairs and Children

In scanning the news this morning, I saw this article on Camilla and the anniversary of Princess Diana’s death. The article deals with Camilla deciding not to attend the memorial. The story brings to light, that affairs have a way of keeping the hurt going for years. Long after the affair is over, the scars […]

A new poll taken among teens reveal that healthy family relations and family communication are important to their happiness. Although not the most scientific, the information does provide some new insights for parents wanting to know what the concerns of their teenagers are. I have addressed the effects of affairs on children here in several […]

One of the most visible effects of the infidelity is distance. The distancing may be physical, emotional or spiritual. The child no longer feels the closeness to the parent that may have once existed. Some people may even withdraw from the parent, creating even greater distance.
In terms of dealing with the distance, the degree which […]

Once the adult child discovers that their parent had or is having an affair, there is an evaluation that occurs. In that evaluation, they consider if it is an active affair or one that occurred in the past. They look at to what degree they have been lied to. They look at whether or not […]

Although I have briefly addressed the effects of affairs on small children, another topic that is often overlooked is the effects of affairs on the adult children. One of the big issues that comes up with adult children is that of betrayal. When the child learns of the parent’s affair, they often feel like they […]

In working through an affair, some decisions will need to consider the unique relationship between you and your spouse. What worked for mom and dad may be a good thing to do, but is it the best thing to do? They discovered what worked for their relationship. it often requires effort to find what works […]

Human nature is that we tend to avoid responsibility. This is very true in the area of affairs and the response to children. One way that avoidance of responsibility shows up is concerning how problems are resolved. When people avoid responsibility, communication games begin. In the area of human relations they refer to this game […]

One major area that needs attention when it comes to dealing with affairs and children is that of trust. Trust is an issue, since so much of affairs involves lies and secrets. Children need parents they can trust, they need someone who they can rely on and believe. If you have lied, deceived or […]

“What are the effects of an affair on children?” is a question that people often search for. Although the question looks for a simple answer, since affairs are not cut and dried situations, the answers are not cut and dried either. I deal with in in greater depth in my “Affair Triage” program. Some of […]