Archive for the History of Affairs
Have you ever considered the reason for calling infidelity an affair? The word affair glamorized infidelity. The word infidelity carries with it the whole connotation of ‘infidels’ and ‘loyalty’. It implies that someone has not been loyal to their matrimonial promises. Those that have not been loyal are seen as infidels. The word infidel also […]
One of the most visible effects of the infidelity is distance. The distancing may be physical, emotional or spiritual. The child no longer feels the closeness to the parent that may have once existed. Some people may even withdraw from the parent, creating even greater distance.
In terms of dealing with the distance, the degree which […]
In reading a work by a 18th century thinker, I was struck by his observation that there were two kinds of divorce. There is a divorce from bed and table, and there is a second kind where you are divorced from the chains. The second divorce is the equivalent of today’s legal divorce settlement. The […]
In researching affairs, it has been surprising how many notables were caught up in adulteries. Abraham Lincoln, Franklin D. Roosevelt, John F. Kennedy, Lyndon B. Johnson, Prince Charles, and Joan Crawford. The lives of these persons were filled with heartaches and turmoil. Although they achieved notoriety, they were unable to escape the emotional fallout associated […]
In dealing with affairs, I explore questions that others rarely consider. Among those questions are how did people deal with affairs in the 19th century? Human nature has not changed over the years, so what is different now compared with back then?
What I have realized is that although human nature has not changed, society has. […]
In working with couples, a tool often used by therapists is the genogram. This provides a type of history of the people and their families. I was reading a book, and became aware of the life of Marry Shelly. Her mother, Mary Wollstencraft was an ardent feminist who had affairs. When one of them did […]
The foundations of marriage was addressed in a Latin saying “Consensus non concubitus facit Matrimonium”. A rough translation is that it is the agreement to live with each other and cooperate that make a marriage, not the ability to have physical relations. Marriage still requires cooperation. The very act of infidelity is one of choosing […]
Although the meanings and intentions behind affairs are varied, one thing is clear. What is clear is that an affair does not mean divorce. Sadly, even in the churches, people use an affair as an excuse for a divorce. When an affair occurs they see it as reason for a guilt-free divorce. In such cases, […]
