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If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading. Many couples wait until the damage is massive before they decide to work on their marriage. After the spirit of oneness and tenderness is destroyed, they wonder if […]
When an affair is suspected or found out, many couples ask the wrong questions. Rather than asking “What can I do to save my marriage?” , “What will save my marriage?” or “What is my marriage worth?” they instead quibble about “What does a counselor cost?”, “What does a private eye cost?” or “How much […]
In the aftermath of an affair, it is common to experience self-doubt. After the shock of the news hits you, the world is suddenly different. You may wonder about what is ‘really’ true’ and what else is a lie. There is an unreal sense of everything around you. You may even find yourself questioning your […]
If the advertising media are to be believed, anyone with big boobs or being well-endowed will insure happiness and pleasure throughout their days. The fantasy is that once these bodily changes are made that your life will improve. Such fantasies are unsubstantiated. The advertising fuels dissatisfaction with one’s body, and questions about one’s own body […]
An aspect of affairs that often leads to hair pulling arguments is “What is the definition of an affair?” The hairsplitting, and nit-picking detail finding that happens in many homes on this question would put a lawyer to shame. Questions arise as to whether to use the legal definition, the dictionary definition, or the Bible […]
In dealing with an affair, there will be times that you are attacked on a personal level. Since the very nature of an affair disrupts people on a personal level, they often say and do things that irritate others on a personal level as well. At times, the things they say are intentional and at […]
After discovering an affair, it is tempting for each spouse to ’speak their mind’ or ’speak the plain truth’ about how they view things. The feelings are often raw and the comments made are rough at best. Although it may temporarily feel better to let it all hang out, this is a time restraint and […]
A difficult question to consider is whether or not serial marriages are any better than serial affairs. In the case of serial marriages, the parties involved attempted to have their relationships with all the legal authority and sanctity associated with marriage. They often experience less guilt than those involved with serial affairs. In each case, […]
Stopping an extra-marital relationship takes more than making resolutions about it. Stopping the affair means ending the physical relationship and changing the emotional relationship. Once the affair is ended, it is not easy to leave that part of one’s life behind. It often takes a conscious effort to transform or change the feelings that you […]
The dating service known as “Ashley Madison” (they call themselves an agency) often advertises their services as “Life is Short, Have an Affair”. They even go so far as to offer a money back guarantee. With near 5 million members, there are many who have taken advantage of their offer. Although they advertise that those […]
