Archive for the Resources

A book that has come to my attention that deals with financial matters that often accompanies affairs is Money Drunk and Money Sober. The book lays out a 90 day program to turn the situation around. The authors understand that close association between addictions and money difficulties. If you have addictions or money problems, this […]

One of the things that astounds me in dealing with affairs is the large number of businesses on both sides of the infidelity issue. There are companies that find infidels and companies that hide infidels. There is even a new female law firm (Fetman, Garland & Associates, Ltd.) in Chicago that advertises, “Life’s Short. […]

Some books to consider if you suspect a sexual addiction are:
Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes
In the Shadows of the Net by Patrick Carnes
Dr. Carnes is the leading expert in the field of dealing with sexual addictions. He is currently the executive director of Pine Grove Treatment center in Hattiesburg, Mississippi.
Other books used by […]

There is a home test for infidelity. I have not used it and do not know if it works. I am mentioning it to let you know that such a resource exists. This is not an endorsement, but merely passing on the existence of such a product. It is called Check-Mate. It is available through […]

Pride has ruined many generals, politicians and couples. Oftentimes when there are troubles in a marriage, pride keeps the partners from seeking help. If they do seek help, by the time they do so, the damage is so extensive that the likelihood of reconciliation is small. If your marriage is experiencing problems, the time to […]

I am considering implementing the Now Live program on the blog. It would allow the capability of a phone in broadcast on the internet. In the case of this blog, the topic would be that of affairs and dealing with them. In considering this decision, I wanted to find out if there is any interest […]

Presuppositions. I know that it is a complicated word. What a presuppositions boils down to is “what are you REALLY wanting?”. The issue that really drives you is key in dealing with the aftermath of an affair. In considering the presupposition, you will find yourself looking at the question “What do I REALLY want?”
Do you […]

Being a counselor, it is important to approach issues such as affairs in an ethical manner. Even in posting on a blog, since a counselor’s words are given weight, those words also carry with them responsibility. Part of that responsibility involves addressing the issues without exploiting those involved. If you are looking for testimonials on […]

There are many books and literature in the marketplace. With the plethora of products there are also many agendas. Some of these agendas may supercharge your sex life, but destroy the spirit of oneness in your marriage. Typically those items that advocate ‘open marriage’ are not conducive to developing a spirit of oneness desired in […]

When it comes to resources for dealing with affairs, there are several that I recommend. The first is the educational program called “Affair Triage” available at www.surviveyourpartnersaffair.com . This program includes the topics and instruction that I often share with clients going through such problems. It provides the instruction and direction that will help you […]