Archive for the sexual addiction
If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading. Within the recovery community are many nuggets of wisdom that have many applications for other areas, including dealing with affairs and their aftermath. One of those nuggets is […]
Unhealthy thinking and affairs often go hand in hand. Although it is unclear whether the unhealthy thinking comes first or the affair comes first, what is clear is that they often appear together. The unhealthy thinking and affair behavior often feed off one another. In the “Affair Recovery System”, the issue is addressed in more […]
I was astounded to read an article from Australia in which the author, Kaysar Trad actually advocated polygamy as a ‘cure’ for infidelity. Talk about “Hair of the Dog” mentality, such suggestions would worsen rather than improve the situation. Part of the damage done to the affair is in the area of trust. The way […]
One of the more tragic affair situations that I have encountered are those where a spouse exploits their partner. The exploitations I have dealt with have run the gamut from letting other people use one’s spouse as in a swingers party to using the sexual favors of one’s wife to pay for the husband to […]
In continuing with the list of ways to avoid emotional blackmail, this is the second installment.
3. Have an escape plan. Make sure you have a way out of the situation or agreement if things get bad. A plan is not only how to leave but also when to leave. Many people make the […]
Extramarital affairs are not the exclusive domain of movie stars. Nor are they the exclusive domain of politicians. Although the chatter in the twitterverse about Republicans paying for the extramarital affairs of many in leadership positions seems to be a hot topic today. The reality is that they can occur across party lines. They are […]
It amazes me how individuals who are determined to have an affair will manufacture any excuse they can. Rather than assume responsibility to their choices and actions, they will blame instincts, urges, human nature, the other person, the situation, anything but themselves. I mention the human nature since the act of having sex with anything […]
Some affairs are the product of love addictions rather than poor decision making, immoral values, sexual addition, poor impulse control or other factors often found underlying affairs. In the case of love addiction-based affairs, the spouse afflicted is seeking stimulation. The need for “love stimulation” becomes the priority. The need for stimulation often over rides […]
The topic of sexual addiction is one of the issues that people are now willing to discuss in relation to infidelity. Even though couples are willing to look at sex addictions, the other side of sexual addiction and its impact on affairs is not addressed as frequently. The other side of sexual addiction is sexual […]
In any given week, there are multiple stories concerning adultery and affairs. This week Amy Winehouse and Elizabeth Edwards are both in the news concerning adultery. The pain of adultery is real. Money does not prevent it from occurring nor does it keep those touched by adultery away from the pain. Even when people in […]
