Archive for the sexual addiction
Affairs often involve a lack of self control. People give into urges or fantasies that they have been keeping active in their minds. The whole affair situation worsens when a spouse attempts diminishing what happened with the excuse that they were drunk (or stoned). Such an admission suggests that there are substance abuse problems in […]
I recently went to hear John Bradshaw speak. The nationally known author had plenty to say about affairs. as his talk focused on ‘rigorous honesty’. He addressed his own affairs, and what he found to be motivating them. One of the points that I found of interest was that he mentioned his own sexual addiction […]
Honesty, especially rigorous honesty is a challenge to achieve. Although it is a challenge, the rewards of such honesty is well worth the effort. One of the barriers that prevents couples from obtaining the healing and recovery from an affair or sexual addiction is the reluctance to have such honesty in the relationship.
In many cases […]
As technology changes, the main indicator of cheating or infidelity changes as well. According to family lawyers in Britain, the #1 sign of infidelity is now ‘excessive texting’. Previously it was working late. Now the main tell tale sign of cheating is excessive texting on the cell phone. With the new technology, infidels have found […]
One area of great debate concerns the topic of cybersex. This is a concern with many spouses, since they desire physical and emotional fidelity from their partners. Below is a list of some of the signs associated with cybersex behavior.
1. Using suggestive screen names
2. Being secretive about their computer activity.
3. Having secret e-mail or social […]
Although the topic of sexual addiction is discussed in erotic literature and romance novels, many people do not recognize the many ways such addictions can show up in their lives. Here is a list of the ten most common forms of sexual addictions. Although many couples do not want to admit that these may be […]
The mainstream press carried several stories about how Hillary Clinton sat through a sermon on adultery. What people do not realize is that the problem is bigger than adultery. There were several affairs involved with former President Clinton. The issue of dealing with sexual addictions is what they are faced with. Had there been just […]
At the grocery store, I commented to my wife about an article in the latest edition of Glamour magazine that addressed “Men’s New Sexual Needs“. I wondered how did people miss some of those needs? In thousands of years, how did they just now discover what those needs were? The incident led me to realize […]
If the infidelity you are dealing with involves sexual addiction, then action will be needed to correct the situation. In one recent study, 5-6% of the US population met the criteria for sexual compulsivity (aka-sexual addiction). As you see by the numbers, not all affairs are due to sexual addictions. If you are one of […]
In dealing with the subject of surviving infidelity an issue needing attention is that of traumatic bonds. Traumatic bonding occurs when a person develops an attachment to people who are dangerous to themselves. Within an affair situation, traumatic bonding can occur between the infidel and their paramour or between the spouses. When such bonding occurs, […]
