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One of the dangers of the ‘Playboy’ mentality is the demeaning it does of women. Women are no longer looked at as wives, but rather as playmates or pets. Those infected with the playboy mentality have new playthings to enjoy themselves each month. Such a mentality weakens marriages. Spouses are not viewed as equals, adults or even partners. They are viewed as less than partners. They are viewed as ‘toys’. With spouses viewed as toys, the other spouse not only plays with them, but also plays with their feelings. They do not take the relationship or the emotions serious. Since the wife is a toy, they are treated as a ‘toy’.
The toy is taken out and played with. After playtime, the toy is returned to the shelf until it is playtime again. Making a marriage work requires 24 hour effort. Putting aside one’s spouse on the shelf does not provide the foundation needed. When wives are viewed as playthings, if the husband tires of one toy, he selects another one without any guilt or remorse. The playboy mentality encourages irresponsibility without accountability. When one toy wears out, they merely select another one to feed their appetites. Some women have even gone along with it so far as to refer to themselves as “boy toys”. Time spent with other male companions is referred to as ‘play time’.
If you find yourself caught up in the playground mentality, this is a wake up call to take action. Marriage is for adults. Relationships are for adults. Granted, adults need some time to enjoy each other, and enjoy life. It is when the enjoyment has slipped into the playboy attitude when one party does not take the other seriously, when self-gratification is the main rule of the day, when women are treated as inferiors that a wake up call is needed.
As with all exploitative relationships, one party can not hold down the other, without it demeaning themselves as well. It is not the wife only who is devalued. The husband devalues himself in being a part of this mindset. Playing house is the game of the day rather than ‘being in relationship’ with someone you love.
Since affairs start in the heart and in the mind, addressing the attitude underlying affair/cheating is important. When the playboy mentality rules the day, it is only a matter of time before the devaluing begins.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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One of the particularly challenging questions that often arises as couples take steps in repairing their marriage after an affair concerns the resolution spouse’s attitude. The attitude of the resolute spouse is critical to consider in looking at the marriage. When the resolute spouse is angry, cold and distant, it would not inspire anyone to want to get close to them. Healthy intimacy involves the desire of wanting to join or be at one with their spouse. When the spouse is cold, angry and distant, there is little that someone would want to join with. In taking steps to regain your spouse and restore the intimacy, attitude is critical to consider. To rebuild the relationship, there needs to be something to attract your spouse back.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
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