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Stalkers, like other control game freaks, often want more and more control. In some cases that stalker gains enough power over the victim to where there is a blackmail situation. The fear of the secrets getting out is so great that people are put into compromising situations. Secrets often go hand in hand with affairs. The more powerful the secret, the more exciting the affair. When a stalker has control, they have managed to leverage the power of the secret and use that power to exploit the victim. In some cases, the information may be a threat to expose the affair. In other cases, the victim is exploited into having an affair with the stalker. Either way, the effects are devastating.

One of the dangers of blackmail is that is seldom ever ends. The secret continues being used to leverage more. More sex, more money, more secrets, the cycle never ends. Those people with more money, popularity, etc  are more vulnerable to stalkers who want to leverage what they have learned. Whatever their motives, they use fear as a powerful motivation to manipulate the victim. I have also seen this used with persons caught up in the sex trade and swingers lifestyle who wish to leave, yet are trapped by threats of being exposed or used against them in divorce courts.

It is not beyond stalkers and blackmailers to set up traps for their victims. They often operate on a hunting-type mentality that seeks to ensnare and exploit their prey. They are not interested in loving them, only in using them. If you are in one of these situations, it is important that you come up with an escape plan and do it quickly. These situations do not improve over time, they only worsen and the stakes grown greater.

Best Regards,

Jeffrey Murrah

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When I was younger, my dad told me that “If you get into a girl’s pants, rest assured that you are not the first nor will you be the last”. In dealing with couples faced with affairs, I can appreciate what he told me. When an attractive female is easy to get into bed, there is usually a reason (or attractive male).  Although the man getting into the ladies pants thinks that he has just accomplished something, the reality is, it is probably a set up or trap and he does not recognize that he just fell for it.

One of the classic scams is for a woman to come on to a man. Once she has him hooked, she presents the threat (my husband is getting out of prison, my husband is coming back from his trip…). The man then attempts to escape. What follows is a series of threats to reveal the “affair” or show the pictures unless a particular amount of money is paid.

Here the affair situation is turned into a blackmail scenario. What started as a ‘hot’ relationship turns into a nightmare with a large tab.

When the man or woman is too easy, or too convenient, there is often a reason for it.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

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