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Being stalked in unnerving. What used to consists of driving by a persons home or place of business has become high tech. Presently there are methods of tracking what is typed on a computer keyboard, where a car travels to, and where a person is by means of the GPS in their phones. Although such inventions are useful for private eyes and families dealing with drug abuse problems, they are potentially dangerous when used in stalking.
Since stalking can be done by a spouse who is concerned with their spouses potentially wayward behavior, or by a lover who is obsessed with the adulterer, or even by the adulterer who is obsessed with the lover, there are many variations of this scenario. The many spy stores now in existence offer whole lines of products for such purposes and more for the truly creative minds. There are also a wide variety of such products on the internet in the form of either hardware or software. With all this technology, engaging in clandestine relationships suddenly becomes very dangerous. If you are considering an affair, it is imperative that you have some knowledge of these dangers.
Some tips in dealing with stalking:
1. Do not allow others to use your cellphone for extended periods outside of your site.
2. Know what is supposed to be and not be in your cars engine area.
3. Pay attention to the cars around you when you are driving.
4. Do not lend out your computer or passwords carelessly.
5. Pay attention to the conversations of those you are with, noting any patterns that would indicate obsessive behaviors.
6. Use caution when going out for the evening or going to or from work.
7. Do not advertise your home address.
8. Be careful with the use or borrowing of charge cards.
9. Be careful with the material posted on social network pages.
10. Be careful with what is sent via text messages on cell phones.
Although these may seem to be common sense, when in the midst of a relationship, people do not often practice common sense behaviors.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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Dealing with stalking behavior is another one of the down sides of affairs. In my previous post I mentioned the ‘hunter’ mentality. Another aspect of the hunter mentality is stalking. If you have ever watched a cat sneaking up on its prey, there are lessons there that will help you understand and deal with stalking behavior.
The hunter is extrememly focused. They have their prey on the mind and often block out other distractions. They ignore what is going on around them and only focus on the victim. They show determination. They persue their victim with a dogged persistence. Since that is all that is on their mind, they are able to devote all their energies to that task. Things that would distract normal people do not distract them. They often build their lives around the victim. The relationship with the victim is often a love/hate one. They often alternate between one feeling and the other. They will talk about how they care about the victim, yet persue them as if they hated them with a vengence. The hunter will often view the victim as ‘their property’. This ownership aspect leads them to take things personally that are not theirs to take.
Once they have the victim, they play with them. They will seek to engage them. In the case of stalkers, they often want to talk to or write to the victim. It often does not matter if the content is positive or negative or shocking, their main purpose is to engage. Keeping this in mind, in order to survive a stalker, you will need to avoid engaging them. Even when they make inflammatory remarks, IGNORE them! Keep your focus and do not be distracted by their hunting tactics.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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