It seems that the title of the old play, “No sex please, we’re British” no longer applies. In a recent study that was published in the London Times, Britain has a new distinction. They are now the top Western nation for casual sex. The study looked at promiscuity in several areas and found that Britain leads other industrialized nations. Although some groups were more promiscuous, the British were 11th overall. It was suggested the the decline in religious principles among many in Britain led to a greater acceptance of extra-marital relationships. (From my own experience, there are many in Britain who hold to traditional values, although they do not seem to be the ones who were involved in the survey).

What does this mean? It could mean that in general, the British people are more tolerant of cheating/infidelity and affairs than some other nations. Although they are accepting, it does not mean that the behavior is condoned.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

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I have written several postings on the use of technology and affairs. In a recent news article, the latest offering from Apple, the iPhone has been used in a cheating situation. The accused claims that his iPhone had a glitch, which sent a questionable picture of him to a female’s e-mail account. Although the spouse called Apple about the supposed glitch, questions still remain about the incident.

Although technolgy has the potential to be helpful, when in the hands of a cheater, with their devious planning, many applications can be found for the technology to enhance their cheating experience.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

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Congressman Tim Mahoney campaigned on bringing morals into the office of his predecessor Mark Foley. He ended up paying out an alleged former mistress $121, 000. He had promised her a job with a $50,000 year income. Even accusations of affairs can be expensive. Promises are made and decisions are made in haste in dealing with such matters.

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New research conducted by Swedish scientists raises questions about the genetic background of affairs. In their research, they have found that some genetic variations (AVPR1A)  have influenced the bonding of voles. Their research has found that genetic variations can explain some difficulties they have in bonding. The researchers are wondering if it has applications for human behaviors. The rodent behavior noticed in the voles, raises some questions for understanding human behaviors.

Genetic researchers have found that  that same gene (AVPR1A) has some correlations with human behaviors. Variations in that gene have been found linked to aggression, age of 1st intercourse, and altruism. The part of the brain that is often stimulated by the gene is the amygdala.  Ironically, this same part of the brain is a large component of sexual addictions.

The research does not let infidels off the hook. In the event that some linkage is found between the gene and adultery (or the ability to bond), the question then arises, which came first…the adultery or the change in the gene? Researchers have found that human behavior can change brain chemistry. Our choices do make a difference in how we behave, and how we feel. Animals act based on urges, as humans, we have choice. Even if a genetic basis is found, humans still have can choose whether to act on their urge or not.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

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One of the hazards of serving in the military oversees is the high risk of infidelity. Infidelity is dangerous enough at home, yet when it occurs in other nations, it is often more life-threatening than domestic occurrences. Affairs are life-threatening. If they do not threaten your life physically, they do so emotionally and spiritually. Not only are they dangerous for the adulterous spouse, they can also be dangerous for the lover or the resolute spouse. With affairs related to military service, just the suggestion of fraternizing can often end up getting people killed. In this story from the 1950’s, Kim Soo-im, a Korean woman was killed for having an affair with an American soldier. She was executed as a spy. It was found out later that no secrets had been exchanged, but that did not matter. This kind of story happens often in war time. If you have a spouse serving overseas, or you find your self serving overseas, added care must be taken to reduce the likelihood of infidelity. Your life and your spouse’s life may depend on it.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

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A woman in Australia came up with a creative way of dealing with her husband’s affair. She is auctioning off the evidence she found. She is offering for sale on ebay, the panties/knickers of the paramour (she calls her a ‘tart’) and her husband’s condom. They are being offered as a package deal at the Australian eBay site.

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The John Edwards affair is worth noting in terms of understanding affairs. It is different that many of the celebrity affairs in how it was handled and what he is saying. It provides some clues as to common patterns in how infidels think and behave. He admits that he started believing he was special, Edwards goes on to talk about the narcissism involved. In other words, he is admitting that it was all about his being selfish, and that he sincerely believed that the rules did not apply to him. It is common that adulterers somehow view that they are too smart to get caught, they are “special” or somehow the rules do not apply. These are common themes that are heard when talking honestly with adulterers.

These common themes are what is worthy to take note of. When a spouse starts showing that “special” or the “rules do not apply to me” mindset, that way of thinking should be a warning sign that an affair is immenent.

It is also noteworthy how the press initially fed into his delusions and gave him great lattitude by refusing to press on the affair issue. Many times political leaders are allowed some lattitude in this area, when their politics agree with the political attitudes that are popular at that time.

He showed his utter disregard for his wife by having the affair while he wife was in the hospital (how nice of him). It is not uncommon for adulterers to take advantage of crisis situations and use them to justify their actions.

In Edwards situation, his wife is wanting to take him back. They have a lot of work to do in repairing what has occurred.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

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The London Telegraph carried a story this morning about a woman who had an affair. The affair resulted in a pregnancy, which she hid from her lover/roommate. After giving birth to the stillborn child, she hid the body in the trunk (boot) of her car.  The story serves as a reminder that eventually affairs will be found out. The lies eventually have to stop. In the woman’s case, she lied to her roommate, she lied to the police and no telling who else. What astounds me is that the roommate fell for the lie that she was putting on weight due to an allergy. The astounding thing about affairs is not only the lies, but the lies that people believe.

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Jeff Murrah

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As technology changes, the main indicator of cheating or infidelity changes as well. According to family lawyers in Britain, the #1 sign of infidelity is now ‘excessive texting’. Previously it was working late. Now the main tell tale sign of cheating is excessive texting on the cell phone. With the new technology, infidels have found new ways of conducting their clandestine activities. Cell phones may soon play a major role in sexual addictions as well. Many sexual addicts are now loading pictures and short films into their cell phones. So not only does one need to investigate the text messages, but they need to also check the photos and flicks contained on the cell phone as well.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

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In Italy, the high court has declared that extra-marital affair besmirch the honor of the Carabinieri policemen. These policemen are to be exemplary in their conduct both on and off duty. It is sad, that with many law enforcement agencies, rather than being the moral example, members have been found guilty of unseemly behavior. Research has been done revealing that extramarital affairs are common with American police officers. Part of the danger with such behavior is that it does affect how the officer will view situations. It will affect their objectivity. Look at the case of David Camm, a former Indiana State Trooper who killed his wife and two children. Camm had a reported history of extra marital affairs. In his case, the affair was not a victimless crime. Infidelity is a matter of life and death. Having an affair is akin to emotional Russian roulette, where chances are taken on how people will react to the situation.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

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