Adultery stories are running rampant in the past few days. In Canada, a Baptist minister is embroiled in an adultery situation and in New York, controversy is erupting concerning an autobiography that details the adulterous behavior of a New York bishop. In Colorado, the Fort Collins area is dealing with rampant adultery and subsequent murder that occurred within the department related to adultery. Shawna Nelson killed her rival, the wife of her paramour, who also worked in law enforcement. Republican politicians are expressing concern that the media became involved in reporting the adulterous actions of Presidential candidate John McCain. McCain has a history of adulterous activities, the recent controversy concerned his relations with a lobbyist. I was always under the impression that if you can’t do the time, don’t do the crime.
The problems are not limited to Christian oriented nations either. In Baharain, a wife is complaining that her husband commits adultery at home, by locking her in a closet and entertaining his girlfriends. In Kuwait, two men and a woman were caught by police armed with search warrants for the behavior. While all these events are occurring, in Boston, efforts are underway to remove any legal penalties or ramifications for adultery. Jokes used to be made that particular behaviors were “banned in Boston”, but it seems that when it comes to adultery which is a world-wide problem, that Boston is wanting to remove any stigma from the behavior. Boston does is not alone in their efforts. Some lawmakers in South Korea are attempting to de-criminalize adultery as well.
Adultery is a form of theft. It involves the stealing of affections and loyalties. The emotions it arouses are strong. I often tell clients that affairs are a matter of life and death. Although they may think that is over dramatic, just look at incidents like the one involve Shawna Nelson above. The likelihood of murder is higher for affair situations than non-affair situations. Historically, up until the last century to century and a half, the act of adultery was a capital crime that carried stiff punishments. In the 21st century some communities, like Boston and South Korea think that it is archaic to have adultery laws, yet the victims of passion killings are proof that the feelings aroused are very real, whether they make adultery a crime or not.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
adultery, adultery in canada, adultery in new york, Affairs in the News, Baharain, Canada, Colorado, Fort Collins, infidelity in Baharain, John McCain, Kuwait, lobbyist, Shawna Nelson, South KoreaIf you enjoyed this post, make sure you subscribe to my RSS feed!
Men and women view affairs differently. Men are often more threatened by the sexual aspect of their wives’s affairs, while wives are more often threatened by the emotional aspects of the affair. The threat aspect is often very real. In the past week, I have seen several articles on “Is your husband’s avatar faithful?” On the surface, this may seem like a silly issue, although the reality, which the wives understand is that the avatar represents the emotional bonds and emotional attachments their husbands have. An unfaithful avatar is definitely a threat to the emotional security of the marriage, even though in real life, he has not slept with anyone. There are many threats that pose event greater dangers than an unfaithful avatar. The threat is often not so much the avatar’s actions, but rather the spouse’s attitude and emotional attachments. If the avatar is part of a game and there are no attachments, then wives often see no threat with what is going on. When they sense that their husband’s heart has shifted, then they sound the threat alarm.
In another tragic news item, a husband (Michel Veillette) who felt threatened by his wifes accusations of infidelity took action into his own hands. The emotional out bust resulted in the death of her and their four children and the home being burned. He later admitted to the police he was having an affair. Affairs are a serious matter. It is not just ‘harmless’ fun. The stakes are high and life-threatening. Even in the situations where physical deaths do not occur, there is often either a spiritual or emotional death of those involved.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
adultery, Affairs in the News, avatar affairs, Canada, cheating, emotional affairs, infidelitly, Michel Veillette, Understanding AffairsIf you enjoyed this post, make sure you subscribe to my RSS feed!
