The hurt associated with affairs lasts a long time. Although you and your spouse may think that the hurt is over when all is finally forgiven or a commitment is made. Although such actions may end part of the hurt, affairs have a way of reaching across the generations. The reach of affairs goes both backwards and forwards. The scars and shame associated with affairs is often carried by the children and grand-children. These generations wanted forebearers they could count on, they could believe in and instead they are given someone who disappoints them.

I have also tried to put into words the pains that people experience. This hurt that goes across the generations is a dark, empty hollow experience. This is in contrast to the adulterer who may have described their life as one filled with experiences, some good, some bad. No matter how they sugar coat the episodes of their lives, the children and grand children continue carrying the shame.

Although each person may have some personal variations of their experience there are some common themes that come back to the dark empty pain.

This is also part of what needs to be addressed in overcoming affairs, but is often ignored.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

Affairs and Children, cheating, dealing with the shame of an affair, infidelity, Rebuilding the relationship, relationships, the effects of affairs on children and grand children, the effects of affairs on the parents

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