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Paul Simon’s song “50 ways to leave your lover” touched on a topic that pains many people. Leaving a lover is never easy. Leaving a spouse is not so easy either. Affairs are often easier to start than they are to end. The beginning of one relationship often means that another one will need to be left behind. In the case of affairs, there is one type of affair where the cheater uses the relationship to leave the marriage. Rather than face their spouse in a responsible manner, they use the affair as part of their exit strategy. Such situations are termd “exit affairs”.  In exit affairs, the cheater is counting on their spouse to terminate the marriage. The threat of divorce has no effect on such cheaters in this type of affair.

The threat of a divorce is what they are hoping for. Rather than face the problems in their marriage, they find it easier to set the stage for them to be thrown out. If you find that the cheater is acting like they are acting out a script and seem impervious to the possibility of losing a relationship, it could very well be that you are dealing with an exit affair. The affair amounts to an act of indirect sabotage to the relationship. In such situations, the cheater uses each relationship as tools.

Best Regards,

Jeffrey Murrah

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