Although time may heal all wounds, it would be better if you actively seek the salve that would hasten the healing of your wound. The wound that an affair causes is definitely deep enough to cause rift between couples. Sometimes this rift seems irreparable and irreconcilable.

 

Lost trust does not come back automatically, rather, there should be a conscious effort on both partners to proactively do their best in rebuilding their marriage and restoring the broken trust. In a manner of speaking, broken trust is a lot like a lost dog, which may never come back, unless you actively look for it. If you lost your favorite dog, you would go to a lot of pains just to locate it back.

Wouldn’t you do the same with broken trust?

 

True, the pain and the hurt may remain in your heart for a while. It is humanly impossible for pain and hurt to disappear overnight. Just like a lost pet that you love dearly, find ways so that you can restore broken trust and rebuild your marriage. Start talking with each other even if you have to endure the pain. True love, after all, is about working things out.

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When faced with the pain of an affair, it often seems that one is faced with a bottomless pit of pain. The hurt is deep and seems to go on in a never ending manner. The more one finds out about what happened, the more hurts there are. It seems like a nightmare that never ends. On top of that it is a lonely pain. It is a burden that you have to carry by yourself.

Although the pain seems endless, like other hurts, it will fade. The pit is not bottomless. When in pain, time seems to slow down and the hurt goes on forever. This bottomless, endless aspect is an illusion. It will fade, but in order to get out of that trap, one needs to have focus and stay active. Focus and activity are two of the tools that will the nightmare aspects the of pain away. Yes there will still be some pain, but the “bottomless pit experience’ will begin to fade.

This and other ways of reducing the pain and dealing with the situation are in my program on dealing with affairs. If you have had the heartbreak of an affair, it will help you move past the pain.

Best Regards,

Jeffrey Murrah

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