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It never ceases to amaze me at the lengths some people go in order to rationalize their affairs. About the time I think that I have heard it all, there is some new twist on the subject. King Solomon is often credited with writing “There is nothing new under the sun”. On this one he was right. There is no new way of packaging it that removes the damage done to relationships, trust and families. One of the latest repackaging of old self centered gratifications is a book entitled”The Ethical Slut“. I could not even make up the absurd ideas that are conveyed in this volume. The book claims to promote ‘polyamory’.
‘Polyamory’ appears to be the new politically correct term for ’slut’ . In previous generations the woman that was willing to be with ‘anybody’ and ‘everybody’ was shunned by the community for many reasons. She was not spreading free love and self expression, it was more about corrupting morals, spreading disease and ruining the neighborhood. Although such persons sincerely believe they are doing nothing wrong, they do not see the damaged lives in their wake, nor do they see the impact in makes on communities and the generations that come after them. Sleeping around provides short sighted and selfish solutions to marital problems. It will get your mind off of things, but it does not ’solve’ or fix anything. If it does accomplish something, it permanently damages the fabric of your marriage, your family, your values and your children’s families. With some people, values mean little. Self-gratification and pragmatism means more than a clean conscience and good reputation.
A slut is still a slut, no matter how you dress them up (and yes, there are male sluts as well).
If you are struggling with the aftermath of an affair, you need to know what you are up against and take action.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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In Nairobi, a recent article in their paper advocated polygamy as a solution to infidelity. This is like throwing gasoline on a fire. Legitimizing sexual license is not going to improve the self control needed in a marriage.
If the men are not going to be loyal to their wives in the first place, giving them more freedoms is not going to improve their impulse control. This is a blatant example of wrong-headed answers to the adultery problem. Adultery needs more self-discipline and self-control along with stronger commitments in order to reduce the frequency of it. Weakening the commitment and giving sexual license gives tacit approval to the licentious behaviors. Although not on a national level, there are movements in the United States which include swinging and polyamory as solutions to infidelity. These are placing the emphasis on giving into the urges and weakening the commitment to marriage. Such logic is akin to having an affair to pay your spouse back for having an affair.
In neighboring Uganda, officials are taking religious studies out of their schools, including teachings against adultery. They believe that morals can better be shaped by the schools without the religious factors. This is more of the same kind of logic that says that due to the high correlation of fire trucks and fires, we are reducing the number of fire trucks in order to reduce the number of fires in our communities.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
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