If the infidelity you are dealing with involves sexual addiction, then action will be needed to correct the situation. In one recent study, 5-6% of the US population met the criteria for sexual compulsivity (aka-sexual addiction). As you see by the numbers, not all affairs are due to sexual addictions. If you are one of those who are having to deal with it, either directly or indirectly, there are some approaches that will not work. These includee:

1. Make more resolutions, promises, or oaths.

2. Using geographical cures. Moving to a new location will not correct the problems that you carry inside of you.

3. Getting into the relationship or marriage. Many couples make of go of their marriage without addressing the sexual compulsivity issue. The assume that their love can overcome the addiction.

4. Getting out of the relationship or marriage. This may end the relationship, but it will not change or improve the compulsivity. You will need to address that. Getting out of the relationship is only window dressing.

5. Finding or using drugs for addiction. This will provide immediate short term relief, but it will not address the problem. It will only serve to disguise the issues underlying the drug or alcohol use.

6. Telling yourself that you will outgrow the compulsion. You may have longer periods of abstinence or  control, but you have not addressed the issues that need your attention.

These are only the major excuses people give or use in avoiding dealing with the issue of sexual addiction within their marriages.

Best Regards,

Jeffrey Murrah

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