CBS has recently launched a new television series entitled Swingtown. The series promotes openly promotes “swinging” . By placing the setting of the series in the 70’s, and claiming that the main characters are experiencing part of the sexual revolution, they are trying to add some legitimacy to swinging behaviors. Back in the 1970’s swingers were considered ‘perverts’ and “sex fiends”. Communities often shunned those who participated in such behavior. There were swingers in many communities, and they often developed networks with other swingers who shared their values and lifestyle. Even the term “swinging” is an effort to make it sound hip. The old term was “wife swapping”. Some efforts were made to call it “open marriage” in order to add some false respectability.
Shows such as Swingtown do not promote healthy marriages. Watching them and indulging in the values they promote will begin to change one’s values and the willingness to accept such activity. If you care about your marriage and want to survive an affair, you will want to avoid such programming which promotes what you are seeking to avoid.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
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In Nairobi, a recent article in their paper advocated polygamy as a solution to infidelity. This is like throwing gasoline on a fire. Legitimizing sexual license is not going to improve the self control needed in a marriage.
If the men are not going to be loyal to their wives in the first place, giving them more freedoms is not going to improve their impulse control. This is a blatant example of wrong-headed answers to the adultery problem. Adultery needs more self-discipline and self-control along with stronger commitments in order to reduce the frequency of it. Weakening the commitment and giving sexual license gives tacit approval to the licentious behaviors. Although not on a national level, there are movements in the United States which include swinging and polyamory as solutions to infidelity. These are placing the emphasis on giving into the urges and weakening the commitment to marriage. Such logic is akin to having an affair to pay your spouse back for having an affair.
In neighboring Uganda, officials are taking religious studies out of their schools, including teachings against adultery. They believe that morals can better be shaped by the schools without the religious factors. This is more of the same kind of logic that says that due to the high correlation of fire trucks and fires, we are reducing the number of fire trucks in order to reduce the number of fires in our communities.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
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In perusing the net, it amazes me the various trends and weirdness that is out there. Among some of the latest trends are “married dating” and “personal affairs”. This two latest terms are just new packaging for the old infidelity. Although packaged as a “trendy” and “in” thing to be a part of, these new trends will lead to the pain and heartache of infidelity.
The internet is known for how it allows people to recreate themselves in a new manner. These trends are just the latest way there is for people to feed into a fantasy. Recall that years ago it was ‘wife swapping”, then it was repackaged as “open marriage” or put into the trendy “swinging” vernacular. It was the same infidelity put into a shiny new package.
The swinging lifestyle is filled with fantasies. It is weekend dress-up for adults. Those involved often numb themselves out with booze so that they can engage in their illicit acts with others before hand. The whole lifestyle if filled with secrets and deception. Although the week end parties in big homes and on the yachts looks feeds into fantasies of ‘lifestyles of the rich and famous’, those participating have to eventually come back home to where they live. They will have to deal with the feelings of emptiness, guilt and other complications that go with it. You can escape this lifestyle before it destroys you. The whole idea of ‘personal affairs’ and ‘married dating’ are nothing more than new variations on old perversions.
If you are caught up in those activities, begin telling yourself the truth about what you are doing, who you are and where it will lead you. One of the hallmarks of addiction is that it has you chasing a fantasy that never becomes realized.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
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