Archive for the Affairs and Children

The hurt associated with affairs lasts a long time. Although you and your spouse may think that the hurt is over when all is finally forgiven or a commitment is made. Although such actions may end part of the hurt, affairs have a way of reaching across the generations. The reach of affairs goes both […]

Your Kids and the Aftermath of the Affair
 
An affair is very difficult for the aggrieved spouse. It creates a mix of emotions that includes anger, remorse, guilt, and confusion. In most cases, the spouse loses hope that the marriage could get better so they would rather get separated. Some couples, however, choose […]

After my post yesterday on the effects of lying on children, further insights came to me. When change happens, there are the initial or primary effects and there are the secondary effects. The idea of primary and secondary effects is well established. These ideas also apply human behavior such as lying.
Some of the secondary effects […]

In the same way that milk and cookies go together, affairs and lying go together. The whole foundation of the relationship is based on lies. The parties involved lie either to themselves or their paramours about their dating status. The relationship begins on a premise of untruth or a total disregard of the truth.
When a […]

In expanding the resources available to those dealing with the pain of infidelity, I have posted several hub pages on various Infidelity related topics.
Is it lying or denial?  This hub deals with discerning whether the behaviors you are dealing with are plain and simple lying or something else.
Is it love or love addiction? This hub […]

The military uses a term for damage inflicted unintentionally on those who happen to be in the combat area. The term, “collateral damage” is used in describing these effects. In dealing with affairs, there is also collateral damage. One group of people that suffer greatly as a result of collateral damage is the children. Affairs […]

The musician Carlos Santana is going through a divorce related to his unfaithfulness. The news reports claim that he did things when he wasn’t thinking straight. He did make it a point to apologize to both his wife and children, since they are also affected by infidelity. Although the musician has done many good works, […]

This news story brings to light that Mississippi is one of the few states in the Union of States that allows a spouse to sue when someone steals them. The ‘alienation of affection’ claim makes affairs more painful in that state than in others. In the latest round, the paramour, Jerry Fitch is seeking limits […]

In a survey of material related to affairs, I came across a population that routinely expressed difficulty dealing with affairs. This population is grown children who discover that one of their parents is having an affair. These episodes are often viewed as painful and heart wrenching. Although younger children seem to adjust with greater flexibility, […]

In scanning the news this morning, I saw this article on Camilla and the anniversary of Princess Diana’s death. The article deals with Camilla deciding not to attend the memorial. The story brings to light, that affairs have a way of keeping the hurt going for years. Long after the affair is over, the scars […]