• About Jeff

My Mission

As a therapist at Survive Your Partner’s Affair and Restore The Family, my mission is to help you recover from the pain of an affair. I am committed to helping both partners heal their wounds and move forward together, and this commitment comes from years of experience working with couples who have endured infidelity.

An affair doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage or family. How each partner responds after the betrayal determines the future. It requires taking responsibility, making necessary changes, and communicating openly without blame or shame.

Affairs often stem from long-term issues within the relationship, not just individual shortcomings. For instance, a husband might develop feelings for someone else because he struggles with open communication. Marriage should be a place of security and healing, but unhealthy behaviors can turn it into a source of pain.

Infidelity can transform a once joyful relationship into a painful memory. But you’re not helpless. I’m here to help guide you through the turmoil of infidelity and work towards restoring what’s been lost. Nobody deserves this kind of betrayal twice over.

My name is Jeffrey D. Murrah, and I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor (LCDC).

As a teenager, I experienced firsthand how infidelity devastates families. My own family’s fragmentation due to an affair led to bitter fighting, secrets, and turmoil that affected our extended family, community, and church. The ongoing hurt from the affair, divorce, and remarriages poisoned the joy of holidays, birthdays, and achievements.

My journey involved episodes with children’s protective services, domestic abuse, legal battles, and secret-keeping. I felt helpless, worthless, and scared of the emotional torture that kept recurring.

For over three decades, I’ve specialized in helping couples overcome the effects of extramarital affairs. My work combines personal experience and research to guide families through crises, from affair recovery to trauma handling and relapse prevention.

Marriage and families shouldn’t endure such painful experiences. I became a Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor to help others avoid the mistakes I witnessed. My practice incorporates proven Biblical principles and neuropsychological insights.

Through the “Direct Connect” method, I help reconnect your head and heart, which is crucial for affair recovery. This method bypasses mental defenses and addresses the disconnection that contributes to affair issues.

I’ve been helping people online since 1999. My initial site focused on family and parenting issues. In 2006, I added a second site dedicated to helping couples recover from affairs. My use of technology in counseling has been presented at professional conferences and featured on Wall Street Journal Radio and the Larry Elder Show.

I’ve also taught psychology at San Jacinto College and conducted parenting classes at the Star of Hope homeless shelter in Houston. My articles on family and marriage issues have an international reach, and I’ve been invited to speak at various venues.

My wife, Peggy, and I have been married since 1985 and have three incredible sons and two spunky, beautiful granddaughters. Our marriage has faced challenges and temptations, but we’ve navigated through them together.

If you’re interested in having me speak to your group, church, or event on topics related to marriage, family life, and overcoming affairs, please contact me for availability.