Archive for the History of Affairs
If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading. Adultery (aka infidelity) is destructive to the spirit of the marriage relationship. Besides being destructive to the spirit of oneness in that relationship, it allows someone to come […]
Affairs occur in many families. The number of affairs is only dwarfed by the number of excuses for affairs. Even pastors have been known to have affairs. One prominent pastor excused his infidelities as “a form of anxiety reduction“. On the surface, such a comment may sound reasonable, yet this same pastor was known to […]
Selfishness, plain and simple is a big factor with affairs. The infidel and their lover seek self-gratification. The gratification they seek is often quick, impulsive and without much thought. Although attempts at rationalizing their actions with “I deserve some happiness”, “God never intended me to be miserable”, “They did it first”, “They don’t understand” or […]
In bygone days, people used terms like tramps, sluts, adulterers and whore mongers to describe sets of behavior that were often seen in people who engaged in infidelity. Over the years, the concept of beauty along with morals have changed so much that identifying such behavior is not as easy as it once was. The […]
In previous centuries, couples were careful to avoid treachery against their spouse. Words like treachery and treason carried with them a stain to the honor and reputation of anyone who had been called such names. In colonial America, being associated with treason or treachery was a major concern. In previous generations, the very thought of […]
The myths of ancient Greece often contain insights into human behavior. They often serve as metaphors that provide instruction concerning situations people often find themselves in. The story of Helen of Troy is a fine example that deals with affairs. In the story, Helen is given as a wife to her husband King Menelaus. Helen […]
When I was younger, my dad told me that “If you get into a girl’s pants, rest assured that you are not the first nor will you be the last”. In dealing with couples faced with affairs, I can appreciate what he told me. When an attractive female is easy to get into bed, there […]
If polygamy advocates have their way, even adultery, which is still against the law in some areas will be protected by the law. The pro-polygamy movement seeks to use the legal ruling of Lawrence v. Texas which includes the phrase “…the full right to
engage in private conduct without government intervention.”
Using a ruling such as Lawrence […]
Among the questions that people ask me about affair situations, one that I find fascinating is the implied affair. Many counselors have addressed situations where an affair occurred, but few have addressed when an affair has not occurred. In the ‘implied affair’ situation, one party asserts or implies that an affair exists. Even though an […]
Fantasy plays a major part in affairs. Even when considering the role of the lover, fantasy plays a major factor. Fantasy provides the building blocks of constructing “a relationship that can never be”. Although there are many promises about what the relationship with the adulterer can be, the reality is that it will never be […]
