The human mind amazes me with all the ways it manages to twist and turn information, especially regarding affairs. When the will is set on having the affair, the mind will manufacture all kinds of rationalizations and excuses to make it sound acceptable. This same mindset of twisting information and looking for loopholes will also influence theology. If writings in your religious teachings take stands against affairs, you will likely find exceptions and escape clauses. The looking for excuses will influence how you look at the world. All kinds of reasoning will be used. Phrases like “God does not want me to be lonely”, “I deserve to be happy”, “My spouse did me wrong first”, “Everybody is doing it”, “They do it in France”, …Although some of these may have a sliver of truth, they are being used to rationalize the behavior. The bottom line is that an affair, is an affair, is an affair. No matter what you call it, it is still an affair. No matter how you excuse it, it is still an affair.
When you honestly call it what it is, then you can begin to take steps at improving your situation.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
