With the recent release of the latest Jason Bourne movie, I’m reminded that there are plenty of lessons for learning.
Many viewers are amazed at the action sequences, yet I’m intrigued at the inner workings of Jason Bourne’s mind.
With the training he experiences, Jason manages compartmentalizing his mind. He keeps the various parts sectioned off and shut off from each other. With this compartmentalizing, the typical checks and balances which hold people back are rendered ineffective.
With his seared conscience, there is never a hesitation or second thought about his actions. This allows him both to accomplish amazing feats, and kill without remorse. He executes without hesitation.
Even with all his training, the human side manages getting through. No matter how much compartmentalizing he does, unwanted thoughts do eventually break through. The shut off emotions eventually come out.
Some cheaters train themselves in the arts of seduction and being covert. They may call it grooming or rehearsal, yet the mental practice amounts to training. Each time they fantasize about an affair, they are running a training program for their mind and emotions.
They manage the art of compartmentalizing. They mentally rehearse the affair so often that when an opportunity arises, they merely execute what they have rehearsed.
Like a highly trained soldier, they execute what they are trained for. When you are trained for seduction, you do it without hesitation. It becomes instinctual. You react and execute without second guessing.
This is also a problem for some of those with childhood sexual abuse. When you have been trained (the term grooming is often used) at an early age via the sexual abuse, you can execute without thinking.
You may not have intended for the affair to happen. When you have been trained (groomed) your training often takes over. If the training was strong enough, you may not even recall what happened.
The compartmentalizing you learned as a way of coping with the abuse can take over. Although training is often viewed as a good thing, when it comes to childhood sexual abuse, those experiences are not a good thing. It’s as if they start working against you.
Once the training is triggered, you execute your trained response. That training becomes a second nature.
The early childhood sexual abuse, like the traumatic training of Jason Bourne shapes you in a powerful way. Traumatic experiences even as an adult often fragments your mind and soul. You become a person of pieces rather than a person of peace.
When a cheater is able to execute without remorse, there is little to no guilt or remorse. They may even talk about it as if another person or side of themselves took over.
One clue is when they talk about themselves using third person terms. When you hear them refer to themselves in third person, you may be dealing with a “Jason Bourne” like situation.
Even the actor playing Jason Bourne, Matt Damon has managed compartmentalizing his thinking. In real life, he opposes guns, even though his ‘character’ uses them extensively. Damon manages navigating a contradictory existence on the issue.
Some cheaters also navigate a contradictory existence on the issue of affairs. They may even convincingly claim no affair ever happened. In their mind, they believe that nothing has. Their ability to compartmentalize keeps them from acknowledging or seeing what they do.
Like Jason Bourne, the programming can be undone. The fragmented mind and heart can be healed. If you want to start changing your mind and your life, consider the Affair Recovery Workshop. It contains special interventions designed in a way that ‘hacks’ the mind and defenses so that recovery begins.
Best Regards,
Jeff
