The John Edwards affair is worth noting in terms of understanding affairs. It is different that many of the celebrity affairs in how it was handled and what he is saying. It provides some clues as to common patterns in how infidels think and behave. He admits that he started believing he was special, Edwards goes on to talk about the narcissism involved. In other words, he is admitting that it was all about his being selfish, and that he sincerely believed that the rules did not apply to him. It is common that adulterers somehow view that they are too smart to get caught, they are “special” or somehow the rules do not apply. These are common themes that are heard when talking honestly with adulterers.
These common themes are what is worthy to take note of. When a spouse starts showing that “special” or the “rules do not apply to me” mindset, that way of thinking should be a warning sign that an affair is immenent.
It is also noteworthy how the press initially fed into his delusions and gave him great lattitude by refusing to press on the affair issue. Many times political leaders are allowed some lattitude in this area, when their politics agree with the political attitudes that are popular at that time.
He showed his utter disregard for his wife by having the affair while he wife was in the hospital (how nice of him). It is not uncommon for adulterers to take advantage of crisis situations and use them to justify their actions.
In Edwards situation, his wife is wanting to take him back. They have a lot of work to do in repairing what has occurred.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
