Category: Rebuilding Your Marriage
Can we work on our problems under the same roof?
When the two of you are not under the same roof, working on your marriage becomes a challenge. The ease at which you can bring things up is no
Is your marriage schizophrenic?
Your ideas about marriage may be creating a schizophrenic marriage monster. By schizophrenic, I mean that your marriage may be attempting to live in two separate world at the
The Challenge of Forgiving an Affair: It’s not about permission
Forgiveness can be challenging. When you forgive, you let go of any control you had. Letting go of control, even if it is only a ‘hoped for’ kind of
Restoring your marriage after the affair: Listening to your spouse
In the continuing series on what to do to improve your marriage after the affair, the next challenge is “listening to your spouse”. It’s easy listening to them when
Rebuilding after the affair: New Foundations
Yesterday I mentioned how in rebuilding after the affair, that there are new realities that you have to acknowledge and accept. Along with those realities is that your marriage
We survived the affair. Now what do we do?
After the affair rocked and shocked your world, somehow you and your spouse survived. With the survival comes a willingness to ‘make it work’. You may ask, what is
Are you a burden to your husband?
When I recently saw the question “am I a burden to my husband?”, I cringed. It was hard for me to conceive that a spouse felt that they were
Stalking the Cheater: When is stalking OK?
When the cheater denies or lies about what they have done or are doing, many of you consider the option of stalking. You may have someone do it for
What is the main job in your marriage?
Have you ever considered what the main job is in your marriage? If you view marriage as an arrangement dedicated to legally sanctioned hedonism, then everything that you do
The divorce fantasy
As unpleasant as it is, the topic of divorce is often associated with affairs. One of the parties has fantasies of how a ‘divorce’ will somehow fix things, or
