Archive for July, 2008
Cell phones have become the number one way of catching infidelity in Britain. I suspect that is the case in the United States as well, although I have not seen the latest numbers on that issue. I was reminded of this when I received an inquiry call from a man who had concerns about his […]
The hurt associated with affairs lasts a long time. Although you and your spouse may think that the hurt is over when all is finally forgiven or a commitment is made. Although such actions may end part of the hurt, affairs have a way of reaching across the generations. The reach of affairs goes both […]
Affairs often involve a lack of self control. People give into urges or fantasies that they have been keeping active in their minds. The whole affair situation worsens when a spouse attempts diminishing what happened with the excuse that they were drunk (or stoned). Such an admission suggests that there are substance abuse problems in […]
Although high drama showdowns make for entertainment at the movies, such episodes are not good for relationships. Even though we want a one time episode to “get it all out”, life does not work that way. If you are expecting to ‘fix’ everything with one meeting or one talk with your spouse, it is unlikely […]
Affairs crash into lives with the devastation of a major pile-up. With the power of an 18-wheeler, it runs over your personal identity and self-esteem, crushing you in the process.
You began asking yourself, “What have I done wrong?” “What have I done to deserve this?” “What should I do?”
You become a confluence […]
Cinderella went running and left her glass shoes at the palace when the clock struck twelve midnight. I’m sure you still remember her story, how the Prince pursued her and how they lived happily ever after.
Unfortunately for most couples, there isn’t a happily ever after. The prince and princess do not always have […]
When a husband or wife leaves the home, it is never a good sign. Leaving the home is often a signal that there are serious problems and that the relationship as you knew it is over. When a husband leaves the home, there is often more hope for the relationship than when the wife leaves […]
Although it is offered as an excuse, the saying “Affairs just happen” is a misnomer. Many times the couple has communication or intimacy problems, and the opportunity arises for things to happen. Another scenario is when a partners uses drugs or alcohol. In such cases, the drug or alcohol abuse had been going on prior […]
Having an affair is taking a risk. In many ways it is akin to gambling, where part of the thrill is the danger of the risk itself. Like gambling, it can become addictive as well. When a person experiences the rush of adrenalin associated with an affair, it is difficult to go back to routine […]
Automobiles often have lights on the dashboard that alert you to malfunctions going on with the vehicle. These lights are often termed “idiot lights” by those who work on cars. The lights often go on when things are ‘bad’. Had the early warning signs been attended to, the problem would have been fixed before it […]
