Automobiles often have lights on the dashboard that alert you to malfunctions going on with the vehicle. These lights are often termed “idiot lights” by those who work on cars. The lights often go on when things are ‘bad’. Had the early warning signs been attended to, the problem would have been fixed before it became a major repair.
Likewise, relationships have signals that let people know when there are problems. Ignoring these signals can lead to major problems. Some people are very blind to signals that indicate there is ‘trouble’. What are some of these signals?
1. Your spouse increases the physical distance from you on a regular basis.
2. Your spouse is very secretive about how they spend their mone.
3. Your spouse maintains a seperate banking account.
4. Your spouse has bills mailed to the office, rather than the home.
5. Your spouse keeps a spare set of clothes in their vehicle.
6. Your spouse is secretive about their cell phone.
7. Your spouse maintains strict vigilance regarding computer access to their passwords and e-mail accounts.
8. Your spouse is always texting or e-mailing people.
9. Your spouse is suddenly interested in getting fit when there has not been a health crisis.
10. Your spouse changes their cologne or the way they wear their hair for some unexplained reason.
11. Your spouse violates limits with persons of the opposite sex, and dismisses it as ‘nothing’.
12. Your spouse claims that you are imaging things.
This is only a partial list. If one or two items show up, it may be nothing major. If you have three or more of these—RED ALERT! You need to take immediate action.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
