In some of my previous emails, I talked about some of the affair villains. Today I want to introduce you to one I hadn’t mentioned.
Although they share many of the traits of wedding crushers and poachers, this one has a definite agenda. They’re ambitious social climbers who sleep their way to promotions and job security.
I debated over what to call them, so for the moment, I’ll refer to them as ‘exploiters.’ They exploit situations to their advantage.
They use secrets, alliances and rumors in getting their way. Affairs just happen to be another tool in their arsenal.
When they sleep with your spouse, they’re not out to replace you or steal your spouse. They’re out for a promotion or job security. One of their favorite ways of achieving their goal is through some version of blackmail.
They sleep and then threaten to tell or expose. The threat is what gets them the promotion.
In previous emails I talked about love addicts using sex to get love, exploiters use sex to get better job positioning. They approach it impersonally as ‘just doing business’.
When your spouse is the one being blackmailed, it threatens your whole family. What’s bad is when they haven’t slept with your spouse, but makes others think they have.
Those situations where you’re unsure of whether the rumor of an affair is true or not put you in a real bind. Your spouse says one thing, yet the rumor mill says something else.
Exploiters take advantage of any leverage they gain. If they know that the two of you have hit a rough spot, they use it to their advantage. They see an open opportunity and seize it.
Although you can’t guard your spouse 24/7, you can take the steps of strengthening your marriage. There are things you can do that improve the bond between the two of you.
When the marriage bond holds firm, exploiters don’t have an in. There’s no opening for them to take advantage of .
One way of improving bonds is with my “30 Days to a Better Marriage” program. In my “30 Days to a Better Marriage” program, you’ll receive daily instructions about some way of improving your marriage relationship.
I made the changes incremental, which increases the likelihood that you’ll do them and increases the likelihood that the changes will stick.
Investing in your marriage always pays dividends.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
