Back in the 90s, I was a college professor for six years at San Jacinto College. During that time, I shared with my students the importance of President H.W. Bush’s proclamation of the 90s as “The decade of the brain”. This led to a great emphasis on researching and understanding brain functioning.
At that time, there were many theories but little scientific evidence about what happens in our heads. However, the research that was done proved that the hypotheses of addiction specialists were correct. Drug abuse counselors had been making claims about the brain and addiction that academics brushed off, but now science was backing them up.
Using new technology like brain scans, researchers were able to see which parts of the brain are involved in addictions, including sex addictions. As they delved deeper, they began to understand the role of various chemicals in the brain. One chemical in particular, called ‘dynorphin’, caught their attention.
If you’re struggling with addictive behavior, including sexual addictions, you may have a dynorphin issue. This chemical can make you feel very negative and blocks the receptors that bring about feelings of happiness. It’s like your brain shuts down and you can’t even feel good when you want to.
But dynorphin doesn’t just affect your mood. It also makes it difficult for you to trust others. It’s a powerful chemical, 50 times stronger than the feel-good chemical called endorphin. So if you’re feeling down, and negative, and struggle to trust after an affair, it could be the effects of dynorphin. It’s not just in your head, it’s a real chemical imbalance. You may be willing to trust but are unable to do so.
Dealing with the trauma of an affair is crucial because it can help restore these brain chemicals to a healthier level. In my video on overcoming affair trauma, I discuss how to undo the effects of these chemical imbalances. Simply telling yourself to think positive thoughts is not enough. It requires special help and understanding.
Recovering from an affair is not easy. It’s a shock to your body and brain chemistry. So when others tell you to “just get over it”, know that you need more than that. You need to address the chemical imbalances and get the support you need.
I’m here to keep it real and help you navigate through the recovery process.
Sincerely,
Jeff
