Although mother’s day and infidelity are not often seen to go hand in hand. Given that 69% of children do not know who their father is, there is a strong possibility that many children were borne from an affair. With Mother’s Day approaching, children remember their parents, or lack thereof. When children were borne out of infidelity, Mother’s Day can be a painful time of recollection.
Mothers will also use the time to reflect on their children and the importance of those children in their lives. It is a great time for reconcilliation, and a terrible time for conflicts. It is one of the worst times to discover an affair. In the past few days, I have addressed topics releated to the pain of affairs. One area of pain that goes with motherhood is that affairs strip away the meaning and hope that once existed in a marriage. It steals away security and intimacy. An affair is more than stealing a kiss, it is stealing a person’s life and purpose. It is stealing their sense of security and peace of mind.
Although some lovers deserve the title of “home wrecker”, some do not. There are some lovers who are caught up believing lies they have been told by a wayward spouse. Had they known that they were part of of such an event, they would not have participated. Mother’s Day is not a time for home wrecking, it is a time for rebuilding, remembering and returning to those values and traditions that provide us with hope, structure and meaning.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
