In previous centuries, couples were careful to avoid treachery against their spouse. Words like treachery and treason carried with them a stain to the honor and reputation of anyone who had been called such names. In colonial America, being associated with treason or treachery was a major concern. In previous generations, the very thought of dealing treacherously against ones spouse was a serious matter.
Just what is”treachery?” Treachery is another word for ‘cheating’ or tricking. It was viewed as a violation of a allegiance or faith. It is a sad statement that many spouses honor their allegiance to the flag and nation more than they honor the allegiance they promised to their spouses.
How does one violate their faith? There are many ways.
1. Giving someone else your affections either emotional or physical).
2. Giving someone else your full attention.
3. Hiding secrets from your spouse
4. Making promises to others ahead of your spouse.
5. Treating your spouse like a child
6. Lying to your spouse
7. Hiding objects or things from your spouse.
8. Not defending yourself from the advances of others.
9. Not valuing your spouses trust.
10. Living your life as if you were single or assuming that it is “your life” and they have nothing to do with it. (e.g. living faithlessly)
11. Telling your spouses secrets to others.
These are just a few of the ways one can be treacherous with their spouse. Although the term treachery is not in common use these days, there are many things we can learn from it. In order to save, preserve or restore your marriage, it is essential that you do not deal treacherously with your spouse.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
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This includes kissing other people’s wives first as the balloons pop as a celebration of New Years Eve, buying cars that aren’t available to the family and are sitting in someone else’s driveway, taking vacations and trips alone, without considering family vacation/financial needs.
Antonia,
Thank you for sharing. Those are truly treacherous actions. When a husband does such things, like those you mentioned, it often brings resentments and money pressures onto the whole family. Nothing spreads misery through a family like selfish spending sprees.