The on-going drama of country music star Jana Kramer and football celebrity, Mike Caussin is making headlines again. This time, Jana joked about Caussin’s infidelity on a podcast. After making her remarks, she later apologized for them.
Her apology, like the initial remark were in public forums. Given that the drama is already public, addressing the topic here is not divulging any secrets or confidences.
The whole episode raises some important affair questions that you could learn from. Real life situations are more illustrative than fictional ones.
Their situation and its handling give you what is often called a teachable moment. Let’s examine the questions their situation raises.
One is should a betrayed spouse apologize for her remarks. Second, whether apologies for affair related matters should be public and third, what impact will this have on their child?
1. Should a betrayed spouse apologize for her remarks
2. Should apologies for an affair be public?
3. What impact will dealing with an affair publicly have on your child?
First, if Jana’s remarks were honest and delivered in love, no apology would be needed. In looking at her apology, I wonder what she’s apologizing for.
Is it for making things public, which embarrassed him, was it her attitude or the lack of love in the delivery of the whole thing. When you hang out your dirty laundry in public, your attitude in doing so is important.
Had she listened to my video on Forgiveness, she would have handled things differently. Matters would’ve been handled discreetly.
Second, affairs and apologies should be handled on the lowest level of public attention possible. It was a private matter which requires a private solution.
Taking private matters and making them public only adds another layer of trauma on an already painful situation. When your hurts and betrayals are made public, there’s a whole other layer of betrayal on top of betrayal.
Being a celebrity doesn’t automatically mean you lose your decency and dignity. They are real people with real feelings that need handling in sensitive ways.
Third, it remains to be seen how their child will handle this episode. Since it’s public record, there’s no running away or denying what occurred. The stain is permanent.
I’m glad they’re back together, although airing their dirty laundry in public makes a mess of things. Although Jana didn’t know about ways of handling forgiveness, you can.
If you have a situation where forgiveness and apologies are needed, you can watch the video “Forgiveness: Overcome the Pain, tear down the walls and remove the roadblocks“.
You can know proven and effective ways of dealing with forgiveness when it comes to such a sensitive area as affairs.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
