One question frequently asked in the wake of an affair is “Can my marriage be saved?” That question should actually be reworded, since those asking it are actually wanting to know “Do I have to loose my marriage?” or ” Does an affair mean my marriage is dead?” . One of the realities about affairs is that the spouses often do love each other, despite the affair. In many cases the love never died, what changed was the affair. It is as if they wanted their marriage plus a little bit more. They wanted the marriage and an additional relationship.
Whether one calls it greed, ego, insecurity or a host of other labels, it can be summed up with the statement that “they wanted MORE”. That additional MORE factor is what then endangers their marriage.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
