Today I decided to deal with some questions and answers about affairs.
Q: Does having an affair make you a bad person?
A: No, having an affair does not make you a ‘bad’ person. The choices we make are different from who we are. Good people can make poor choices. Having an affair is never a ‘good’ choice. Our choices may shape our future, but it does not condemn us to that future either. The issues that arise with affairs can be dealt with.
Q: Does an affair mean my marriage is over?
A: An affair does not automatically mean the marriage is over. How the couple chooses to respond to the affair has more to do with the marriage being over than the affair. An affair damages, but does not usually kill a relationship, although some people have used affairs to severely damage their marriage.
Q: Are all affairs the same?
A: No. Each one is different. The circumstances and choices associated with the affair make each one different and also change the ways people respond to them.
Q: Can a person be trapped into an affair?
A: Yes. Some affairs have occurred in an entrapment situation. People have been known to start a relationship with another person while key information regarding the marital status of one of the parties has been kept from the other.
If you have questions about affairs, feel free to post a response or call.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
