Your spouse’s cheating is not the first problem in your marriage. It was the latest in a series of problems. Now that you know about it, your spouse pays lip service to the issue, but does not take it seriously. Instead, they view many of the other problems as more important to resolve than the cheating. Since they are dealing with these issues, they can tell themselves that they are working on your marriage. While they are ‘distracted’ by these issues, you are emotionally bleeding out. The MAIN issue bringing pain and misery in your life is being ignored while they are convenientyy distracted by the other problems
If you dare to ‘confront them’ they will tell you how hard they are working on the marriage and that you should be appreciative that they are working on it. You know what htey need to be working on, but instead they have their attention focused on minor problems that the two of you could have worked together on. They may even try to get you to agree that one of those distractions is your main problem, when in reality it it the distance created in the relationship by their cheating along with their misplaced priorities.
There will always be convenient distractions, especially when cheating is involved. Rather than getting honest and facing the real source of pain in the relationship, they allow the other issues, which are secondary to keep them from what they wish to avoid. For the cheater it is a win-win, they can avoid the affair and ease their conscience by ‘working on the marriage’. It is just another one of the games cheater play to avoid the issues.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey D. Murrah
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