Murder is ugly, not just ugly, it is downright repulsive. Likewise affairs are repulsive. No matter now much Ashley Madison, Hollywood and the adult entertainment industry try to justify them, they are still ugly. It takes a lot of paint to cover up the kind of ugly that an affair is. Besides these two being repulsive, they share some other connections as well. I am not about to tell you that every affair will involve a murder, that is simply not the case. I can tell you that murder is often considered in the minds of those touched by an affair, and that the risk of murder is higher with an affair involved, in some cases, even the extended family.
Why does such a connection exist? I suspect it exists due largely to the passions involved. When emotions and relations are bound within the limits of matrimony, they are not destructive. Once those bounds are ruptured, it releases intense feelings. These intense feelings contain pain, anger, rage, fear and a multitude of others. When these feelings erupt, it is like a major water main being busted. The emotions spew in many different directions. Just the force of the emotions often damages those around it. When the power of those emotions is focused, they become dangerous. Whether they are focused on the lover, the cheater or the resolute spouse, they are dangerous and unpredictable. Rational people rarely consider the thoughts that go through the mind and hearts of the person whose passions were burst open. Once they are released, they can not be brought back easily. Thoughts flow through them quickly. The more distraught they are, the more dangerous the thoughts. When people feel desperate, they often consider desperate actions.
If you are the one whose passions were burst. You may want to stay in a safe place for a while, at least until you can safely navigate your passions and those hurtful thoughts. There are often good reasons to have the thoughts, but no good reasons to act on them. You will need to regain your composure. When people talk about “Loosing their mind”, you understand what they are saying. When you regain yourself, then you are ready to return to living life and solving problems.
I know this is not a pleasant, feel good on Monday morning topic, but it is necessary and it is real. The connection is real and needs to be de-toxified before you do something that you may later regret.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
