Family oriented days such as Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can be stressful for families where affair occur. Although such days are set aside to honor those persons, it is dreadful to honor someone who has betrayed your trust or destroyed the family. The days when family members are to be honored are often times when emotions are sensitive and raw. Such days provide opportunities for healing, but more often than not, they are sources of pain and hurt.
Awkward attempts at redefining what the family is or who the family is only exacerbate the pain. Even Presidential Proclamations may say the new arrangement is a family, but deep down, the gut knows it is not a family. It is akin to labeling a duck a chicken. They both have feathers, and are birds, but the commonalities end at that point. There may be some commonalities of the new arrangement with family, but it is not the same. Affairs destroy families. The pieces can be glued together in a new configuration, but it is not that same that it once was.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
