When your spouse has multiple affairs, it’s a wake-up call. When that happens, some serious changes are needed.
Take for example this excerpt from a husband’s email. “I have been in marriage for about five years but it has not been entirely smooth. We break up and make up quite often – more so because she has been having multiple affairs with men, and especially her male colleagues. I have caught her several times and seen many chat conversations….”
He’s obviously broken by what’s been going on with his wife. He loves her and finds himself desperately seeking answers and direction.
When your spouse has multiple affairs, you’re facing pain on multiple levels. There’s the breach of trust with the affairs, the lies, the disappointment and the blow to your sense of who you are as a spouse.
Multiple affairs have a way of beating hope and life out of your marriage. It leaves you feeling crushed and broken. Each affair takes a little more life from your marriage.
Dealing with this situation isn’t easy. The answers provided by those who have only dealt with one or two affairs don’t fit what you’re facing.
You search for explanations behind what you’re going through. With multiple affairs, the simple answers no longer explain the sexual merry-go-round you are dealing with.
You have to consider topics like sexual addictions, attention disorders, personality disorders, programming and dual diagnoses. These aren’t easy topics to consider. With most of these, you’ll need a trained mental health professional in just understanding them.
One thing worth considering is the effects of what they’ve done on you. You may have been so focused on them that you forgot to take care of yourself.
Facing multiple affairs is traumatic. This is where the video on Overcoming Affair Trauma can help you regain some emotional stability in your life. When you are losing your cool you’re no longer able to deal with them.
The video won’t help them stop the affairs, yet it will help you in dealing with the trauma that comes with multiple affairs. You may think you are handling things fairly well, yet inside, your body is traumatized by what happens and keeps happening.
Your body carries the emotional scars and memories of what happened.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
