A couple of weeks ago, I was away on a cruise. While on the cruise, I took a few moments for a break in the cigar lounge of the ship.
These are typically social places where many conversations happen. Some are small talk, while others are interesting conversations.
This time, the conversation concerned an elderly man who was cruising with his wife. While cruising with his wife, he also paid for his lover to be on the cruise on a different floor.
The meeting place for the cheater and his lover was the cigar lounge, in a dark corner away from the windows. The ‘regulars’ considered their public display of affection in the lounge distasteful.
At one point, the lover posed the question to him “What should I call myself?” She wanted clarification on what role she was in.
In response to her question, one of the women in the lounge commented quietly “How about Slut?” Those around them didn’t like the drama brought into their lives.
The frank, honest response was refreshing to hear about. The lover didn’t know what was up, but the woman commenting on the rendezvous sure did.
This episode illustrates some important lessons about affair relationships. One is that affairs are not as publicly accepted as the movies portray.
Another is that just because your spouse takes you on a cruise or special weekend, it doesn’t mean that you are their only object of affection. They’re putting on a dog and pony show leading you to believe that ‘all is well’.
I feel for the man’s wife when she discovers her husband’s secret guest that was part of their cruise. He was busy cruising on many levels at once.
Keep in mind that there are many Swinger cruises as well. On these cruises, those in the lifestyle gather and ‘take-over’ parts of the ship. Your spouse may have a very different plan for the cruise than you do.
Discovering such an affair, or discovering one under these circumstances is quite a shock. If you are facing the crisis of discovering an affair, you’ll want the video, “Getting Past the Affair Crisis”. It deals with how to handle the initial shock of the news along with what to say and what to avoid.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
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