One of the more unsavory types of affair threats is from encroaching family members. Affairs with cohorts or neighbors is bad enough. When the affair involves a family member it takes you to a special level of suffering.
I bring this up near the Holidays since those times bring family members together. When family members start encroaching on your marriage, it can turn into a nightmare. The shocking reality is that there are affairs with brother in laws, sister in laws, uncles, and aunts. These affairs start with a simple encroachment on boundaries.
Don’t let your marriage fall victim to blurred lines. It’s crucial to establish clear boundaries and enforce them, even with family. When dysfunction sets in, boundaries relax and innocent interactions can turn into something much more dangerous. It may start with some off-color humor, then move in the direction of being handsy with others.
Seduction, manipulation and intoxicating substances often play a role in these affairs, with individuals crossing the line without any self-control. To put a stop to it, forceful language or threats may be necessary.
Having a family history of affairs is a major factor in the likelihood of experiencing one. Don’t ignore this crucial statistic and be aware of the potential threat from unhealthy family members. If your family history has a history of people violating boundaries in this way, it puts you at higher risk.
If you’ve been caught in the web of family affairs, take action. Download the Affair Recovery Workshop and focus on the section dedicated to family dynamics and history. It’s time to break free from the patterns that hold you back.
As Thanksgiving is upon us, don’t let old wounds resurface. Start the healing process and take control of your own happiness.
Get real about family affairs and start building a brighter future.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
