There are many factors behind affairs. Some are talked about openly, while others are only talked about occasionally.
Today I want to talk about friendship. Actually, the factor I want to draw your attention to is the lack of friendships.
When you have few or no friends, you are in a precarious situation. The risk for having an affair is higher.
In an attempt at escaping the isolation that comes with few friends, cheaters take risks. Their risks are more about desperation than infatuation.
One study found that one of the major factors common to ministerial affairs is loneliness associated with few to no friends. When this is an issue for ministers, you are not immune to it.
The lack of friends also makes recovering from an affair slower. Without friends, the agony drags on.
Family can be helpful, but they can’t replace friends. The lack of friends amplifies your pain.
The lack of having someone to share with makes the pain more intense. It also leads to poor problem solving. Without friends, your own thoughts and ideas become an echo chamber that only repeats what’s already in your head.
Your spouse was your best friend, which is good. When that best friend cheats, you loose your that special relationship and your best friend.
You are hit with a double-whammy and no one is there to help you recover from your hurts. This is where being part of a support group helps.
If you are looking for a place, consider joining the support community at Restored Lifestyle, where you’ll find articles, videos, and forums where you can share about your struggles.
Best Regards,
Jeff
