The other day I mentioned my son’s wedding. As with any wedding, when a large number of family members assemble, they bring their own drama with them.
My son’s wedding was no different. One of the episodes worth noting concerned a mouthy uncle. Anytime you join families, there are new introductions and new relationships formed.
One of the uncles experienced problems with being mouthy. There are times you can take introductions and friendliness too far.
The danger came when he felt so at ease, he began discussing things he shouldn’t. He started sharing potentially damaging information.
He thought he was just ‘being friendly‘. He didn’t see the potential dangers he was stirring up.
Well placed words can bring healing and wrongly placed words can bring a world of hurt.
It’s not a matter of being dishonest, it was instead a matter of revealing too much and information that he had no business revealing.
Honesty has boundaries as well. You can tell people too much.
There have been many affairs started by telling new acquaintances too much about your private life or what goes on in your marriage. Although the eyes and genitals are blamed for starting affairs, it’s the tongue that lights them up.
One of the ways the mouth does this is through sharing too much to the wrong person at the wrong time. Chances are if the cheater kept their mouth shut, it would’ve stopped the affair from happening.
By sharing too much, you violate relationship boundaries. You may think you’re just being friendly, yet your spouse knows differently.
The way to protect yourself is asking your spouse if you’re sharing too much. They’ll be glad to tell you. They see blind spots you don’t see.
Another place you can get some help is with the support community at Restored Lifestyle. There you can share and ask others if being overly honest is part of the problem.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
