It never ceases to amaze me at the lengths some people go in order to rationalize their affairs. About the time I think that I have heard it all, there is some new twist on the subject. King Solomon is often credited with writing “There is nothing new under the sun”. On this one he was right. There is no new way of packaging it that removes the damage done to relationships, trust and families. One of the latest repackaging of old self centered gratifications is a book entitled”The Ethical Slut“. I could not even make up the absurd ideas that are conveyed in this volume. The book claims to promote ‘polyamory’.
‘Polyamory’ appears to be the new politically correct term for ‘slut’ . In previous generations the woman that was willing to be with ‘anybody’ and ‘everybody’ was shunned by the community for many reasons. She was not spreading free love and self expression, it was more about corrupting morals, spreading disease and ruining the neighborhood. Although such persons sincerely believe they are doing nothing wrong, they do not see the damaged lives in their wake, nor do they see the impact in makes on communities and the generations that come after them. Sleeping around provides short sighted and selfish solutions to marital problems. It will get your mind off of things, but it does not ‘solve’ or fix anything. If it does accomplish something, it permanently damages the fabric of your marriage, your family, your values and your children’s families. With some people, values mean little. Self-gratification and pragmatism means more than a clean conscience and good reputation.
A slut is still a slut, no matter how you dress them up (and yes, there are male sluts as well).
If you are struggling with the aftermath of an affair, you need to know what you are up against and take action.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
