Affairs come in many shapes and sizes. Since they do come in many forms, it is often difficult to make blanket statements that apply to all affairs. Although many times, the picture is that some seducer or seductress lured one’s spouse away is a romantic notion, it is not always the case. In some cases, the innocent party in the affair may actually be the lover. Although spouses always want to assume that their husband or wife is ‘innocent’, the reality may be that they were the seducer. Their spouse could have lied about their marital status and led an innocent party astray.
The leading astray of an innocent third party is not a pleasant picture to consider, yet it does happen. The picture becomes tragic when the lover also has children. When they are a parent and led astray, that choice of the relationship touches many more lives than imagined.
I mention the ‘innocent lover’ as something to consider when sorting through an affair. The claims that the lover makes that they are innocent and that they are the injured party may be correct. If your spouse has a history of lying, deceit or of leading a double life, it may very well be that that pattern occurred again. The problem may not be people seducing your spouse, it could be that your spouse is seducing others. Knowing what the source of the problem is becomes crucial when deciding what to do about the situation.
For more information on how to deal with an affair and its aftermath are found in my e-book on the subject.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey D. Murrah
