In recently reading an email, one line caught my attention. The writer stated, “My inability to forgive is eating me up and I need to get better.”
It’s one of those lines you may miss the importance of. I know I did the first time I read it. Her stating that it’s ‘eating me up’ conveys both pains along with something taking over her life. Unforgiveness often takes over larger and larger portions of you. It takes over more of your thinking, more of your emotions, more of your time and more of your health. It’s like a cancer. The longer you hold onto it, the further it spreads.
The writer is correct, she does need to get better.
I’m often struck at how there’s a plethora of articles on the ‘power of forgiveness’ in dealing with medical issues, including cancer and various immunity problems. Over and over again the medical establishment reports the benefits of forgiveness in healing. The healing part is nice to talk about, yet the dark part isn’t. When forgiveness brings healing, it leaves you wondering what unforgiveness brings.
By implication, unforgiveness contributes to illness and dis-order. It disrupts your health. It’s not a direct cause of everything, but it’s a significant factor in many things. It should be treated as such. Johns Hopkins found it contributes to diabetes and heart disease.
Although the writer stated that unforgiveness was ‘eating me up’, she may be stumbling across a ‘plain truth’. The plain truth is that not only is her unforgiveness spreading, it is eating away at her health. Nursing her hurt and grudge, which was related to an affair is making her sicker by the day.
I’ll tell you what the others don’t. Your unforgiveness is making you sick, and getting your sicker by the day. Even though you may not be experiencing symptoms yet, the longer you remain unforgiving, your problems will shift from affair recovery to health dysfunction. It’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when.
I could tell you “I believe in the Power of Forgiveness”. That also means “I believe in the Negative impact of unforgiveness” which sickens you with the same intensity that forgiveness brings healing.
The good news is that you don’t have to stay unhealthy. You can let go of all that unforgiveness and the problems it brings, no matter how big they are or how many there are. My recent video, “Forgiveness: stop the Pain, Tear down walls and Remove the Roadblocks” will benefit you. You’ll be guided through ‘how’ to forgive.
You don’t have to keep on letting the affair hurt you, unless you want to. No affair is too big to be forgiven.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
