Have you ever experienced times you wish that you had a book containing all the insights, saying and advice of your father? I know there are times I’ve felt that way.
If you’ve lost your father, you know the importance of this question. You may recall a few sayings and insights, but you wish they were at your fingertip.
I consider myself fortunate in that my father managed writing a book containing many of those things. It definitely doesn’t cover all his insights, yet it’s filled with many of his challenging ideas.
During the times I read it, I can almost hear his voice with its unique intonations posing the questions and making his comments. One of the questions he posed in his book is “Where in the Bible does it say that a marriage should be happy?”
This is typical of his thought provoking questions. Although the Bible doesn’t make that promise, there are many people acting as if it does.
There are also numbers of people who take the opposite approach and think they should dissolve their marriage since they are no longer happy. Despite the lack of Biblical grounds for it, they sincerely believe that their unhappiness is a legitimate reason for divorce.
After an affair, your marriage will experience times of unhappiness. Those are not easy times to endure. They are lonely, painful and often agonizing.
This is one reason why striving for happiness as the goal of your marriage as a fool’s errand. Making happiness your main goal will deliver disappointment.
No one can promise you happiness in your marriage. That’s not promised or guaranteed. What you can achieve are things like trust or healthy communication. The two of you can solve your problems and work together.
When the two of you have trust, healthy communication and solve your problems, the likelihood of happiness is greater. It also makes for a healthier marriage. This is a good reason for making having a healthy marriage a better goal than seeking after happiness.
One item that can help is applying the techniques found in the video “How Can I Trust You Again?” It guides you through what you need in rekindling trust in your marriage and help make it healthier.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
